In The Shower Or Bath Believe it or not, even a quick shower can be a great opportunity to snag some much needed relaxation time. Take as much time as you can, and use the time to reflect on the day, or how you’d like the day to go. This is a great way to center your focus on positivity, and set the stage for an improved mental state for the rest of the day. You can also have a bubble bath if you have the time, and that’s your thing! Utilizing some calming essential oils such as lavender or chamomile during a bath is a wonderful way to unwind.
Before Bed Spend some time before bed journaling, reading a book, watching a calming nature documentary , listening to relaxing music, or anything that makes you feel calm and relaxed. When you set time aside for yourself before bed, it allows you to process your day and prepare for a more restful night’s sleep.
Take A Road Trip Whether it’s just a few miles away, or in a whole other state/province, a road trip away from all the stresses of everyday life can be an awesome way to set time aside for yourself. take a weekend, or use up some vacation time you’ve saved up and go somewhere new! Try new foods, see new places, experience as many new things as you can, and have FUN.
These are just a few examples of how you can get creative and start setting time aside for yourself as much as possible. Depending on your schedule and lifestyle, each of these things can differ in execution, but the most important thing to remember is to DO IT! Having some time to re-center yourself, and refresh your mind can work wonders on your stress levels; and it can also improve your overall health if you have certain conditions triggered by stress.
You may have heard the saying, “‘No.’ is a complete sentence.” If not, it’s definitely something you should keep in mind for your daily life. While you don’t necessarily want to say no all the time, it’s important to know that you CAN when you need to.
It can be easy to fall into the trap of “people pleasing” your way through life, and never setting healthy boundaries for yourself. This is an understandable struggle—you want to make the people around you happy and not let them down! However, you must consider your own life and feelings sometimes.
Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to help you know when you need to take a step back from being everything to everyone:
What else is on my plate? If you simply have too much to do, and you’re overwhelmed… Say no.
2. Do I WANT to do this?
It’s important to realize that you don’t have to have an elaborate reason to say no. Not wanting to is enough.
3. Am I in the right mindset for this?
Sometimes what is happening in our own life can make certain things just too much to do… For example, planning a birthday party might not be a great project to take on right after a death in the family.
4. Does this person consistently take advantage of me?
It’s an unfortunate fact that there are lots of people that seek out people to manipulate and take advantage of. You can find these people everywhere, so always stay vigilant, and make sure they aren’t doing it to you. TRUE friends and HEALTHY family will have relationships with you that are built on give AND take.
5. Have I had any “me time” lately? Self-care is vital to a happy and healthy life. If you’re constantly going and going and doing things for everyone else—you’re neglecting yourself. When this happens, burnout, stress, anxiety, and more can creep in and create lots of other issues in your life. Take and make time to take care of YOU.
I hope this has helped you to take a look at your habits of how much you say no to people when you should. It’s okay to stand up for yourself and say no when something just isn’t a good fit for you at the time. ❤
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You Can Be Honest Journaling affords you the opportunity to be completely raw and honest with yourself. You don’t have to worry about what someone might think if you express certain emotions honestly, and you can feel safe. The journaling also lets you practice self-awareness… Much like how saying something out loud can help you hear how ridiculous it sounds—journaling can help you SEE if you are overreacting to something innocuous.
It Can Help You Remember What To Be Grateful For A great way to shift focus off of your negative feelings is to make a list of things that you are thankful for, or that made you happy each day. This can be ANYTHING from the perfect cup of coffee, to getting a hug from a loved one. Just write down everything that had a positive impact on your day. This is a great way to end your journaling sessions on a high note, and put you in a happier and more relaxed mindset.
It Gives You Quiet Time Taking the time to journal your feelings each day gives you a scheduled quiet time with yourself and your feelings. You can sit quietly with your emotions, and figure out WHY certain things make you feel negatively. You can take the time to work through your triggers, and not allow pain from your past to control your future.
Helps You Keep Track Of Repeated Issues By making a point of journaling your feelings and experiences each day, you will be able to get a fix on things that keep happening that affect you negatively. This will give you the opportunity to avoid these situations, and/or figure out how to fix them. As you weed out these issues, you will be able to more confidently navigate your day-to-day life.
Lets You Blow Off Steam Sometimes it would be nice to really tell someone that has been hurting you what you think of them, and hurt them back. However, this can lead to a lot of other bad situations; and can often be counter-productive to trying to live a more healthy and peaceful life. This is where journaling can come in very handy… Instead of verbally lashing out at the person or people, write down what you wish you could say to them. No consequences, just you and your journal. If you can/want, you can also even read it out loud as if they were there. The important thing here is that you’ve gotten that negativity out of your system so it doesn’t fester and explode. Once you’ve written it all out and possibly read it out alone, tear that page out of your journal and dispose of it however you want. This will help keep you from revisiting and reigniting any negative feelings you just took the time to get out.
I hope these ways that journaling counts as self-care have inspired you to start journaling on your own! It’s a wonderful way to process both positives and negatives that you go through in your life.
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Healthy New Year’s Resolutions (resources and gifts)
Happy New Year!
Thank you for being part of the Life in Bloom! family.
I pray that you will have an amazing, blessed New Year.
Today, I am taking time to create and promote new products that I am passionate about. Tonight, I will be eating nibblys and then playing board games with family. After my son goes to bed I will be spending some quiet time with God to plan out the year. Tomorrow, we will have a small family dinner.
What are your plans for today and tomorrow? (and for the new year)
What are YOUR New Year’s resolutions?
Would you like greater health or greater time/location/money freedom? Would you like a deeper connection with God? Would you like to find a community of women who are committed to supercharging their physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health? Do you wish to be more motivated or organized?
Read on for resources (and free gifts)
I really appreciate you and wish to support you in your health goals (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual).
What are your New Year’s Resolutions?
If you want some ideas of New Year’s Resolutions you will actually keep , read this article
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When it comes time to bring in the new year we often do a toast with our fancy glasses and sparkling cider (or champagne), wishing everyone a year full of happiness, health, prosperity, and wisdom. What we don’t think about are the artificial ingredients and crazy amounts of sugar that are in these drinks that we are raising up to our health! Why not try one of these recipes that will help you bring in the new year without a guilty start on your health journey?!
Sparkling water that doesn’t have added sodium or sugars Purium’s Apothe-Cherry -Add 1 tbsp Apothe-Cherry to your glass then fill the rest with the sparkling water & enjoy
Tequila Sunrise WITHOUT the Tequila
100% organic orange juice Purium’s Apothe-Cherry Sparkling water -Add 1 tbsp Apothe-Cherry, half glass orange juice, and half sparkling water.
Sparkling Cherry Lemonade
Organic lemonade Purium’s Apothe-Cherry Sparkling water -Add 1 tbsp Apothe-Cherry, half glass organic lemonade, and half glass sparkling water.
What’s best about these drinks is not only are they healthy and delicious, they are also kid-friendly! Enjoy and have a Happy New Year!
1) Look at the ingredient lists on *ALL your supplement bottles for the following…
*ALL includes vitamins, minerals, shakes/smoothies, protein mixes, herbs- even those sold by health stores, given to you by health professionals, or sold to you by a friend in an MLM (or by your own company).
Dangerous Ingredient #1: Artificial Colors. …
Dangerous Ingredient #2: Hydrogenated Oils.
Dangerous Ingredient #3: Lead, Mercury, & PCBs.
DangerousIngredient #4: Talc or Magnesium Silicate
Dangerous Ingredient #5: Titanium Dioxide.
Unnecessary additives include:
simethicone, vegetable gum,
talc and propylene glycol
“Other ingredients” is a catch all area for manufacturers wanting to hide not so natural ingredients. These “other ingredients” can include Natural flavors, MSG, Aspartame (and other artificial sweeteners), Citric Acid
2) Watch the following video to understand how YOUR supplements may actually be harming rather than helping your health
4) Sign up for the FREE report “The Truth about Supplements” and the written Transcript of the You Tube video
Allison always referred to herself as a “Christmas geek”. She was always the first one in her family to start putting up holiday decorations and her husband joked that a new Christmas tree found its way to their home every year.
Then one December, Allison’s father was hit and killed by a drunk driver. Suddenly, the season that had meant so much to her was colored by grief and depression. She’d been close to her father all of her life, and even when she became an adult, she often called him every day just to chat.
Heartache can change the most beautiful season of all into a time of despair and discouragement for many.
Grief: The Unwanted Visitor
Like Allison, you may be dealing with the death of a loved one during this time of year. But grief comes in many forms and it’s not just limited to the loss of a beloved family member or friend.
Grief is the natural response to loss. Sometimes, the loss is a relationship such as going through a divorce or becoming estranged from your child. Other times, the loss might be that of a dream such as learning you’re infertile and will never have children. The loss can also come in the form of a natural disaster that destroys your home or livelihood.
In these moments, it’s hard to celebrate. Christmas just doesn’t feel as festive and all the joy seems to be missing from your heart.
This is important to remember. You might have moments or even hours and days where you feel OK. You might feel like your life is normal and experience brief blips of happiness and joy.
But the moment these feelings pass, you’re once again overwhelmed by sorrow. This is completely normal. It doesn’t make you a bad person if in the middle of grieving a loved one or coming to terms with something horrible, that you find a brief moment of joy.
Grief often comes in waves. You have a deep, overpowering one then another and another. But eventually, these waves begin to stretch further and further apart as time goes on.
Understand that grief can be a difficult journey even during the best of times. But the holidays can make it seem especially sharp. That’s normal and to be expected. The important thing is to be kind to yourself right now.
Take Care of Yourself
During times of grief, caring for yourself may not be high on your priority list. You may already feel overwhelmed by all the things you need to do and adding one more task may not seem possible.
But if anything, you need extra care when you’re grieving. It’s not selfish or wrong to take time out for self-care. It’s important that you nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Here are a few simple ways you can do that…
Eat a Nutritious Meal
Sometimes, people that are grieving have difficulty finding joy in anything. You may not like your favorite meals and snacks right now. They may taste weird to you or you may find you just can’t enjoy them. This is common so don’t be alarmed if it happens to you. As you work through your grief, your normal appetite will eventually return.
Do A Creative Activity
Being creative can help you release strong emotions. You might like to try adult coloring, knitting, or jewelry making. Don’t get discouraged if you try one activity and find you don’t enjoy it. You may have to try several activities before you discover the one that’s best for you.
Sit back and let someone else care for you. Take a spa day, get a massage, or a pedicure. Hire a cleaning service to scrub your home from top to bottom. Get a shampoo and haircut at your local beauty salon. Go out to your favorite restaurant and order dinner for yourself.
Exercise can boost endorphins and make you feel better. If you think you’re up to exercising, then try a gentle activity. Remember your body is still under a significant amount of stress so go easy on yourself. Some good exercise activities include: yoga, walking, or swimming.
Understand that Doubts Are Normal
Grief can cause you to question your entire belief system. Maybe you felt you received a sign from God that your loved one was going to be healed but now, they’re gone.
Maybe you thought marriage was supposed to be for life but now you’re in the middle of a divorce. Perhaps you thought if you did the right things, you’d never be a victim of a violent crime.
Don’t struggle with your doubts alone. Reach out to a trusted friend or a spiritual leader to share your feelings. The other person may not have any answers that can comfort you. But having space to voice your doubts is important for your healing.
Listen to Your Body
When you’re grieving, your normal routine is disrupted. You may not be sleeping as much, or you may be sleeping more than usual. You may be eating more or less than you typically do. You might be working more, or you might find yourself working fewer hours.
It’s essential that you honor your body during this time. If you need to nap in the middle of the day, don’t feel guilty. If you need to turn off your smartphone and watch movies all day, then do it. Take time to care for yourself.
In the middle of your grief, don’t forget to take time for you. Be kind to yourself and look after your mind and body as if you were caring for a hurting friend.
Let Yourself Heal
It was a December afternoon when Sarah watched her husband wheeled into surgery. He was headed for a routine procedure to remove his tonsils. “We’d only been married five months at that point. We were newlyweds and I was still learning so much about him.”
But Sarah’s husband never left the hospital that day. Instead, the anesthesiologist made a mistake, giving him too much medication. He didn’t wake up from the surgery.
In the coming days, Sarah felt broken. “Everyone told me to just forgive the anesthesiologist who did this. I got a lot of pressure to move on from other people. One person told me if I didn’t forgive, I was a horrible person.”
Then came the day Mary showed up in Sarah’s life. She was a widow from a local church who often reached out to other widows.
Sarah shared her story, crying through parts of it. “How am I supposed to forgive?” She whispered.
Mary squeezed the woman’s shoulder, “Right now, your only job is to grieve. You need to process what you’re feeling. All of the sadness, rage, and pain. Let it come.”
Sometimes, those who are grieving receive the message that they should “just forgive” if someone else is at fault for their loss, but that advice can stunt the grieving process.
“It only compounds loss,” Mary explains. “So now, we have someone who’s grieving, and they feel this guilt and sense of isolation added with it. Many people don’t realize this, but Jesus grieved in the Garden of Gethsemane. Grieving is an important part of the healing process.”
It’s important that you’re patient with yourself during the healing process. Some people think grief is something they should just “bounce back” from. While it would be great if it were that simple, grief is not like stubbing your toe. The pain lasts far longer and goes much deeper.
It’s not uncommon to think you’ve grieved, and you’re done. You imagine you’re through the worst of it then something crops up and you feel the loss all over again, as if it were day one of your grief.
Understand that grief is not a destination. It’s not an exotic locale that you visit only once. Grief is a journey, and that journey can be on-going for months, years, or even decades depending on what you’ve lost.
Create New Traditions
Holiday traditions can give you a feeling of peace and safety. But when you’ve recently lost a loved one or are experiencing grief, your normal traditions may not be possible anymore. That’s where creating new traditions can be helpful.
Allison and her father had a habit of singing Christmas carols every December. Since her father was no longer with her, her husband volunteered to carry on the tradition with her.
But Allison decided she’d rather visit at the veteran’s hospital that year to honor her father’s military service. It was a different tradition that would honor her father without reminding her of the pain of her loss.
If you decide you don’t want or can’t do a certain tradition, don’t be hard on yourself. But do try to find something to replace it with. A new tradition can give you something to look forward to as well as a sense that life is returning to normal.
It’s important to understand that there’s no quick fix or escape from grief. The only way to get to the other side is to go through the heartache. But you don’t have to do that alone. Reach out to caring, concerned members of your community, and let them comfort you through this difficult time.
For more ideas of new traditions to create you can look HERE
Don’t Be Alone in Your Pain
Like Allison, you may be the one in charge of preparations for the holidays. This can naturally be difficult but when you factor in the weight of grief, it’s easy to become overwhelmed and distressed.
Are there holiday traditions that you don’t enjoy? Maybe you love decorating the tree, but you really hate wrapping the gifts. Perhaps you hate planning the Christmas dinner menu, but you enjoy the grocery shopping.
Don’t be afraid to swap tasks with family members and friends. When you do this, you let those who are naturally gifted shine. You allow them to be the hands and feet of Jesus, as they were designed to do.
Asking for help can be difficult if you’re not used to doing it. But God created us to bear the burdens of those around us. When you allow others to care for you, you’re allowing others to see a beautiful example of how the church cares for its own.
It can be easy to fall into a rut of bad habits and mindsets. One of the biggest reasons for these ruts is not having an established, healthy routine. Without the foundation of a good schedule to help set the tone for each day, it’s only a matter of time before negativity and bad habits can creep in.
Keep reading for some great ways you can start to create a healthy routine for yourself…
Start The Day Off Right Make sure that you have a filling and healthy breakfast each day. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.” This saying is actually very true! Having a healthy breakfast improves your brain function, helps you focus, and starts your day on a positive and satisfying note.
Prioritize Your Tasks Sometimes, it can be easy to get sidetracked or overwhelmed when we have a lot of things to do. Instead of just trying to get everything done at once, organize your tasks based on priority, and work on the list one item at a time. Doing this will help you stay on track, get things done more efficiently, and feel less overwhelmed by everything you need to get done.
Don’t Forget To Hydrate, Stretch, And Eat Getting caught up in everything that consumes our attention each day makes it easy to let the fundamental things we need fall to the wayside. Make sure you are drinking enough water; and eating healthy breakfasts, lunches, dinners, (and snacks!) each day. It’s also very important to stretch your body and get your circulation going every couple hours—especially if you spend a lot of time sitting for work. Taking the time to do these three little things can honestly make all the difference in your days.
Get Enough Sleep Sleep deprivation has many negative impacts on the body; so it’s very important to make sure you get the proper amount of sleep each night. Avoid snacking, caffeine, outings, and other stimulating activities in the hours before bedtime. It is also helpful to have a specific time when you actually get into bed to sleep, and to not use your phone at this time. The use of electronic devices at night can throw our circadian rhythm out of balance because of the blue light that they emit. Make sure that you are setting yourself up for complete rest and relaxation when you go to bed every day. This will help you stay alert, and keep you from feeling exhausted during the day.
I’ve covered the basics above, but it’s the perfect place to start so you can be more aware of how your habits can impact your daily life… Don’t be afraid to try different things to create a healthy routine for yourself—catered to your specific needs!
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At Life in Bloom! our mission is to help empower women to be who they were created to be and live live in full bloom (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health). I am a woman of faith so I tend to gravitate to the spiritual. I am partnered with an amazing organic whole food superfood company so I am quite aware of the physical. I have a social work degree and have done a lot of inner healing work so I am more connected to the emotional realm than I used to be.
At one time, I did not know how I was feeling. I spent a lot of time focusing on others and trying to please them, I also spent a lot of time distracting myself with the things of the world. I had a lot of past trauma that I had not healed. Have you heard that saying, “hurt people, hurt people”? Well, that was me. I caused a lot of chaos and destruction around me because I was hurting and did not no how to deal with it.
I also have gone through depression and anxiety in my wilderness seasons. I now know that physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual are all interconnected. Healthy daily habits (nutrition, exercise, hydration, sleep routine, stress relief etc), self-care, connection to God. spiritual practices are all amazing. I am a big believer in prevention and early intervention. I also know that God is the Master Physician/ Healer and can work miracles. I know (deeply know and trust)that we are to guard our hearts and minds.
But, what if you are struggling and none of your coping skills are working? What do you do then? Yes, you bring it to God in prayer. Absolutely. Yet, it is important to recognize when you are in the danger zone. Sometimes you need to reach out. God works through people (maybe even through me right now). It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help. Our dependence on God does not negate our need for help from others. Sometimes stepping out in faith IS taking a step towards a helping hand. That is why I am speaking out about mental health.
I have had help from many amazing people on my journey. People who did not judge me or point fingers at me. Mentors, friends, and even professionals. At first, I had shame about being “on the other side of the desk.” As a social worker, I had always been the one to help others. I have since learned through experience that people who help others especially need to have a mental/ emotional support system (yes, mamas of young children, caregivers, helping professionals, volunteers, ministers I am talking to you).
Some of you may be saying: “But, I am saved. I SHOULD not be feeling this way.” First of all, don’t SHOULD on yourself (as my mom used to say). It is important to remember that we are composed of three parts- body, soul, and spirit. Our spirit is replaced when we are born again and we receive the gift of the Holy Sprit- that part is instantaneous. But, our souls (mind, will, and emotions) need to be renewed through a process of sanctification. That can take time and a lot of learning (and unlearning). Please be patient with yourself and give yourself some grace.
The following video will explain more about the importance of mental health from a faith perspective:
Some of you may not be coming from a place of belief in or trust in God. We are each in our own place in the journey. Please do not throw out this helping hand because it is activates a wound you are carrying (yes, I understand that religion can hurt people). Like I said, hurt people hurt others. God (whether you believe or not) knows what you are going through and loves you in the middle of it all. (That said, if you do wish to know Christ please reach out to me. I have some free resources to offer you. A good place to start is HERE with my personal story/ testimony and a free copy of my e-book)
Life isn’t easy for anyone, and there are often times that we don’t know if or how we can make it through… This can cause lot of problems that lead to depression, anxiety, stress, isolation, self-medication, and much more.
It is important to be aware of these feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, so you can get the help you need. These feelings can include:
Suicidal or self-harming thoughts
Seeking relief through alcohol or other substances
Isolating yourself from loved ones
Pulling your hairs out (trichotillomania)
Development of eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia
Being unable to function the way you normally would
Physical manifestations of mental/emotional distress like constant headaches, stomach aches, heart palpitations, blurred vision, dizziness, and more
Body dysmorphia (inability to see your body or appearance as it truly is)
Feeling like you need help
These are some of the most common signs of knowing when it’s time to talk to someone… If you ever start to feel or do any of these things, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. Find a therapist, doctor, psychiatrist, or psychologist that you feel comfortable with, and that can help you and support you as you work through the problems you face. It is also important to speak with the people close to you that you trust, so that they can become part of your support system as well. It is OKAY to need help. All you have to do is ask.
****(SUICIDE HOTLINE: 1-800-273-8255 Call this number at any time that you think about taking yourself from the world. You matter, and you would be missed. The world is better with you in it, so never lose hope.)****
Never forget that no matter where you are in your mind, there IS a way out, and you CAN have a fulfilling and happy life. You are stronger than you realize, and getting someone to help you is the first step to realizing just how strong you are.
Please contact me if you have questions, need support, have prayer requests etc