Knowing When It’s Time To Talk To Someone

One of the most important parts of self-care and growth is knowing when you need help. For example, for physical health, you may consult a personal trainer or dietician to help you reach your goals. The same goes for mental health… When you are having a particularly hard time mentally/emotionally, or are going through a bad situation, a therapist or psychiatrist can be used to help you get through it. So do you know when it’s time to get some help? Keep reading for some tips on knowing when it’s time to talk to someone…

At Life in Bloom! our mission is to help empower women to be who they were created to be and live live in full bloom (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health). I am a woman of faith so I tend to gravitate to the spiritual. I am partnered with an amazing organic whole food superfood company so I am quite aware of the physical. I have a social work degree and have done a lot of inner healing work so I am more connected to the emotional realm than I used to be.

At one time, I did not know how I was feeling. I spent a lot of time focusing on others and trying to please them, I also spent a lot of time distracting myself with the things of the world. I had a lot of past trauma that I had not healed. Have you heard that saying, “hurt people, hurt people”? Well, that was me. I caused a lot of chaos and destruction around me because I was hurting and did not no how to deal with it.

I also have gone through depression and anxiety in my wilderness seasons. I now know that physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual are all interconnected. Healthy daily habits (nutrition, exercise, hydration, sleep routine, stress relief etc), self-care, connection to God. spiritual practices are all amazing. I am a big believer in prevention and early intervention. I also know that God is the Master Physician/ Healer and can work miracles. I know (deeply know and trust)that we are to guard our hearts and minds.

But, what if you are struggling and none of your coping skills are working? What do you do then? Yes, you bring it to God in prayer. Absolutely. Yet, it is important to recognize when you are in the danger zone. Sometimes you need to reach out. God works through people (maybe even through me right now). It is not a sign of weakness to ask for help. Our dependence on God does not negate our need for help from others. Sometimes stepping out in faith IS taking a step towards a helping hand. That is why I am speaking out about mental health.

I have had help from many amazing people on my journey. People who did not judge me or point fingers at me. Mentors, friends, and even professionals. At first, I had shame about being “on the other side of the desk.” As a social worker, I had always been the one to help others. I have since learned through experience that people who help others especially need to have a mental/ emotional support system (yes, mamas of young children, caregivers, helping professionals, volunteers, ministers I am talking to you).

Some of you may be saying: “But, I am saved. I SHOULD not be feeling this way.” First of all, don’t SHOULD on yourself (as my mom used to say). It is important to remember that we are composed of three parts- body, soul, and spirit. Our spirit is replaced when we are born again and we receive the gift of the Holy Sprit- that part is instantaneous. But, our souls (mind, will, and emotions) need to be renewed through a process of sanctification. That can take time and a lot of learning (and unlearning). Please be patient with yourself and give yourself some grace.

The following video will explain more about the importance of mental health from a faith perspective:

Some of you may not be coming from a place of belief in or trust in God. We are each in our own place in the journey. Please do not throw out this helping hand because it is activates a wound you are carrying (yes, I understand that religion can hurt people). Like I said, hurt people hurt others. God (whether you believe or not) knows what you are going through and loves you in the middle of it all. (That said, if you do wish to know Christ please reach out to me. I have some free resources to offer you. A good place to start is HERE with my personal story/ testimony and a free copy of my e-book)

Life isn’t easy for anyone, and there are often times that we don’t know if or how we can make it through… This can cause lot of problems that lead to depression, anxiety, stress, isolation, self-medication, and much more.

It is important to be aware of these feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, so you can get the help you need. These feelings can include:

  • Suicidal or self-harming thoughts
  • Seeking relief through alcohol or other substances
  • Isolating yourself from loved ones
  • Pulling your hairs out (trichotillomania)
  • Development of eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia
  • Being unable to function the way you normally would
  • Physical manifestations of mental/emotional distress like constant headaches, stomach aches, heart palpitations, blurred vision, dizziness, and more
  • Hallucinations
  • Body dysmorphia (inability to see your body or appearance as it truly is)
  • Feeling like you need help

These are some of the most common signs of knowing when it’s time to talk to someone… If you ever start to feel or do any of these things, SEEK HELP IMMEDIATELY. Find a therapist, doctor, psychiatrist, or psychologist that you feel comfortable with, and that can help you and support you as you work through the problems you face. It is also important to speak with the people close to you that you trust, so that they can become part of your support system as well. It is OKAY to need help. All you have to do is ask.

****(SUICIDE HOTLINE: 1-800-273-8255 Call this number at any time that you think about taking yourself from the world. You matter, and you would be missed. The world is better with you in it, so never lose hope.)****

Never forget that no matter where you are in your mind, there IS a way out, and you CAN have a fulfilling and happy life. You are stronger than you realize, and getting someone to help you is the first step to realizing just how strong you are.

Keep Bloomin’


Please contact me if you have questions, need support, have prayer requests etc

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